“In your entire life, you can probably count your true friends on one hand. Maybe even on one finger. Those are the friends you need to cherish, and I wouldn’t trade one of them for a hundred of the other kind. I’d rather be completely alone than with a bunch of people who aren’t real. People who are just passing time.”― Sarah Ockler, Fixing Delilah
I remember adults telling me the exact same thing when I was a teenager- “you can count your true friends on your one hand”. No doubt it is one of those pearls of wisdom handed down from the wise to the wicked which are only really fully understood and appreciated much later in life.
Lately, I have gotten to thinking a lot about the characters that have featured in this feature film that is: My Life. Some have been purely unmemorable extras, others leads or supporting leads.
I use this analogy because I always feel like looking at my life past is like remembering a movie I once watched. I can remember bits and pieces of it; some characters, scenes and locations but it doesn’t really feel like mine. It is bizarre how relative life is.
The people that played major lead roles in your life in your 20’s can be easily killed off replaced with a new lead in your 30s and so on. I often have to focus to remember all those old faces who were once everything, an everyday and a perfect fit, but now are none of those things. It makes you think wonder how come they were so easy to forget. So replaceable.
A nice surprise for everyone is the few old faces that star alongside you for the full length of the feature. These are true friends and – as the saying goes- these you can probably count on your one hand. If you’re lucky.
I am writing this piece as I feel the need to share how lucky I feel. I have some amazing, true friends, who I could not go without (and hopefully will never have to). I am lucky enough to have the kind of friends that would fly across an ocean to be at my baby shower or to meet my new baby girl. These, are gems. These are true gems.
So to my amazing friends: when the curtains are finally drawn and the credits begin to roll, I will have been lucky to have starred alongside you because you are one of only five but worth are worth a million. Thank you.